Don't be afraid of mach3. It's a great program. I am sure it is frustrating for you since there are not too many others using it on your other support forums, but cnczone.com and the machsupport website can help out as well as here on the creek. custom screen sets are available and fairly easy to make with some patience.
Here is a thread on CNCzone that you will have to copy and paste into your browser (no direct links)
http://cnczone.com/forums/mach_wizar...ification.html
this thread details how to use a pin on your breakout board to trigger a Z zero script as well as a centering script. There are also a few other scripts and screen sets out there from "BigTex" on that forum that detail the touch plate as well. To use the script as shown on the site, you can either make a few buttons on your screen or you can use the "MachBlue" +probe screenset. The easiest is to use the MachBlue screens.
Please ask questions if you need some help....