Open grained woods like oak and ash stain unevenly, with the pores sucking in tons of stain and the rest almost none. This results in the grain really jumping out, not always what is needed. Filling the pores helps to dial this back but then the only way to add color is with a painted on stain which is not scratch or wear resistant. Applying a durable top coat leaves a very plasticky surface. (plasticy? whatever) Suggestions?