In defense of the internet expansion tank you do wan the expansion tank down because you have the potential of creating a double air cushion. In your configuration you could collect air on the water side of he expansion tank leaving a large volume of air on the water side of the bladder which would compound pressure fluctuations.
That said, the fact that you say the pressure drops by 8psi then returns at idle makes total sense. The entire system expands with heat (including the water) and the pressure in such a low pressure low temp system could likely drop when heated and raise when cold.
The dropping over time to zero can be endless issues in such a low pressure system.
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