"Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t - you’re right."
- Henry Ford
I learned when i went to refill drinks or food or what ever. I keep my wife's one in my right hand and mine in the left. that way she is always right and there are no mixups.
Bill
When SWMBO speaks, I say "Yes Dear".
Married 48 years now (to the same women). I've learned lots of lessons like this. The most important was when she voices a problem with something it doesn't necessarily mean she wants me to offer a solution. First is agreement and sympathy if appropriate, then some communication to figure out if it's something she would like some help with!
JKJ
Yes, please John. Thanks
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t - you’re right."
- Henry Ford
You have it exactly right John Jordan. My wife calls it "venting" and usually all she wants is sympathy and someone to listen to the aggravations of her job. As a somewhat slow learner it took me a number of years to figure out that advise was neither wanted nor going to be heeded. She will ask if she wants advise, she is not shy (Major understatement).
Dave Anderson
Chester, NH
The hardest thing about translating the double-X chromosome language was understanding the difference between venting and an implied call to action. For example, "The side of the road here is trashy." is far different than "The back floorboard of the car is trashy." The latter requires immediate action!
A marriage license should come with a printed instruction guide. Maybe there's a YouTube video these days.
JKJ
Happy wife happy life has become happy spouse, happy house. Both sides give up a little to gain a lot. Synergy. I can't imagine coming home to an empty house and bed. Been together since meeting her in church youth group in 1962. Perfect? No, but a whole lot better than being alone.
Last edited by Ole Anderson; 11-13-2018 at 6:32 PM.
NOW you tell me...
I have to wonder what is the advice that is given to them? I'm thinking its "keep them guessing".
Greetings, Edward and welcome to the SMC forum.
I agree with your philosophy. Getting close to 51 years now for my Lovely Bride and me.
Fortunately, neither of us insist on being right! That helps a lot. We are both open to other perspectives and not afraid to say "you're right. Thanks!"
JKJ
Wow, amazing this thread was revived today. I made a mistake this morning and questioned why my wife wanted some small thing done. I was wrong, and made a big deal out of a small request. She thankfully let me know I was wrong.
It's not so much about saying "yes dear" out loud, but thinking it before I act or open my mouth. Sometimes I forget the spirit of "yes dear" and this is a good lesson for me today.
I know your all saying "practice what you preach Andrew"
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t - you’re right."
- Henry Ford