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Bert Kemp
01-18-2018, 1:19 PM
Many of us are between 60 and death, i.e. ďolder". A friend sent me this excellent list for aging and I have to agree; its good advice to follow.

1. Itís time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Donít just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital. Warning: This is may not be the best time for new investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and donít feel bad spending your money on yourself. Youíve taken care of them for many years, and youíve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility to earn their own money is now theirs.



3. Keep a healthy life without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. Itís easy to become sick, and it gets harder to get healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor & do tests even when youíre feeling well. Stay informed.

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then so enjoy it together.

5. Donít stress over the little things. Youíve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Donít let the past drag you down and donít let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: ďA man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.Ē

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Donít stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

8. Donít lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. Thereís nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. Youíve developed your own sense of what looks good on you Ė keep it and be proud of it. Itís part of who you are.

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. Youíll be surprised what old friends youíll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you but they are the future and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterdayís wisdom still applies today.

11. Never use the phrase: ďIn my time.Ē Your time is now. As long as youíre alive, you are part of this time. Yes you have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12. Some people embrace their golden years while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people & itíll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If youíve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

14. Donít abandon your hobbies. If you donít have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, and dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog; grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, and golf. You can paint, volunteer or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15. Even if you donít feel like it, accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Make the effort to go. Get out of the house; meet people you havenít seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But donít get upset when youíre not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. Thatís a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but donít go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Don't dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life weíre all going throughÖ. minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18. If youíve been offended by someone Ė forgive them. If youíve offended someone -- apologize. Donít drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesnít matter who was right. Someone once said: ďHolding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.Ē Donít take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But donít waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

20. Laugh. And laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age; never get to experience a full life. But you did. So whatís not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what you believe they might be thinking. Theyíll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what youíve achieved. Let them talk and donít worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life youíve lived so far. Thereís still much to be written, so get busy writing and donít waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

AND REMEMBER: ďLife is too short to drink bad wine.Ē

Jim Becker
01-18-2018, 1:45 PM
Good advice in that piece, Burt. Thanks for sharing.

Don Orr
01-18-2018, 2:39 PM
Words of wisdom for sure-thanks for the reminder.

Steve Eure
01-18-2018, 2:45 PM
Thanks Bert. Words of wisdom for sure.

julian abram
01-18-2018, 2:54 PM
I'm in 60+ death category and agree with all points. Thanks for sharing.

Frederick Skelly
01-18-2018, 7:19 PM
Good stuff Bert. Well worth reading and keeping in mind.

Joe Bradshaw
01-18-2018, 8:35 PM
Very good advice Bert. I think that it can be summed up in three words. Live, Laugh and Love.
Joe another formal naval person

Doug Garson
01-18-2018, 8:43 PM
Well said Bert, thanks for sharing.

Matt Day
01-18-2018, 11:28 PM
Reminds me of chain mail from around y2k era.

If you donít send think 7 friends (or post it on a wwíing forum!) you have bad luck for 10 years.

Rod Sheridan
01-19-2018, 1:20 PM
Bert, wish I was that smart............Rod.

Greg R Bradley
01-19-2018, 2:38 PM
I'm having a tough time with the idea that 60 is anything even remotely close to "old".

I think my only consideration to turning 60 was selling my fastest track bike. Out went the RC51 when I decided the Boxer Cup should be fast enough. Really, 60 is the average age at BMW club track events.

Doug Garson
01-19-2018, 2:53 PM
I don't think the message is that 60 is old, I think the message is that 60+ are the payback years where you get rewarded for all the hard work, good decisions and strong relationships you made in the previous 60 years. For those of us who have worked hard and made the good decisions and strong relationships these are the glory years. My heart goes out to those who thought the first 60 years were the glory years and spent every cent they earned on short term self gratification, for them the glory years are ending.

Bert Kemp
01-20-2018, 4:25 PM
Ditto Thats the message I got from it



I don't think the message is that 60 is old, I think the message is that 60+ are the payback years where you get rewarded for all the hard work, good decisions and strong relationships you made in the previous 60 years. For those of us who have worked hard and made the good decisions and strong relationships these are the glory years. My heart goes out to those who thought the first 60 years were the glory years and spent every cent they earned on short term self gratification, for them the glory years are ending.

Prashun Patel
01-20-2018, 4:41 PM
This is good wisdom, and applies to people of all ages.

Charlie Hinton
01-20-2018, 7:03 PM
I like it.

lowell holmes
01-08-2019, 12:03 AM
I don't know how this thread popped up a year later, but I think it merits revisiting.

Bert Kemp
01-08-2019, 1:57 AM
Wow it was yesterday I put this up here LOL I had to read it again, its a long read but worth the effort.
I got a new knee last Oct, said the hell with what it cost I was un happy couldn't walk much couldn't do a lot of things I liked to do. Now almost 3 months into recovery I'm walking pretty good not to much pain, getting out more, riding my Motor cycle again. Got a drone and flying that having fun with it. Looking for someone to share the fun with a little.

Bruce Page
01-08-2019, 2:11 AM
That's great to hear Bert, I'm glad your new knee is doing well.
I enjoyed re-reading your post.

Frederick Skelly
01-08-2019, 10:33 AM
I don't know how this thread popped up a year later, but I think it merits revisiting.

I'm glad you did Lowell. There is so much practical wisdom here. I couldn't find one thing that didn't ring true. There were many that resonated with me, but I especially liked this one, coming off the Holidays:

"10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you but they are the future and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday’s wisdom still applies today."

Joyce Knights
01-09-2019, 8:00 PM
I think it applies to all the adults out there, you surely did list down best word of wisdom and I am so glad that I did bump into this old thread.

Rod Sheridan
01-13-2019, 1:12 PM
Excellent advice Bert, thanks for posting that......Rod

Frank Pratt
01-13-2019, 8:39 PM
#10. really stuck out for me. With my kids getting into middle age & grandkids getting into their teens, I'm seeing the truth of this on a daily basis. I'm learning more from them than they are from me at this point.

Bert Kemp
01-18-2019, 12:16 AM
It won't be long and another year will have past lets enjoy it:)