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Tom Leftley
12-08-2011, 9:32 PM
I have four sons and two daughters. My second oldest son is gay and is HIV positive. I was informed today (by his partner) that he has two different types of cancer (both agressive and inoperatable), has Hepatisis B, and also HIV induced dimentia.
His doctors have said that his prognosis at best is a few days. He would turn 49 in February.

Although I do not agree with his life style, he is still my son and I still love him, and it really hurts to lose one of my children. Your prayers are appreciated.

Myk Rian
12-08-2011, 9:41 PM
We lost our youngest son 7 years ago, although the circumstances were different. He took his own life.
But still, parents aren't supposed to bury their children, and it hurts terribly.
You, and he, have our prayers. It's OK to cry for him.

Rick Fisher
12-08-2011, 10:40 PM
Tom, I am really sorry for the pain your in right now .. Very sad situation. You will be in my thoughts ..

mickey cassiba
12-08-2011, 10:49 PM
Very sad to hear, he, and you will be in our prayers.
Mickey and Charlotte

Mike Henderson
12-08-2011, 10:50 PM
I'm very sorry to hear of your son's illness. I wish both you and him peace.

It's not something you will ever recover from but you can go on with life. You have my deepest condolences.

Mike

Lori Kleinberg
12-08-2011, 10:58 PM
My prayers go out to you and your family.

john lampros
12-08-2011, 11:09 PM
my thoughts go out to you and yours.

Ken Fitzgerald
12-08-2011, 11:44 PM
Tom,

My sincere sympathy for your son and you. I have said hundreds of times...you may not like what your child is doing but you can never stop loving them. I can't imagine anything more difficult than your situation. Your son and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ron Jones near Indy
12-08-2011, 11:49 PM
Your entire family will be in my prayers.

Bruce Page
12-08-2011, 11:50 PM
Tom, prayers sent out to you, your son and your family.

John Coloccia
12-09-2011, 1:16 AM
I'm sorry, Tom. You are in my prayers.

Sam Layton
12-09-2011, 1:25 AM
Tom,

You, your son, and your family are in my prayers.

God Bless, Sam

Rich Engelhardt
12-09-2011, 6:28 AM
Tom,
It was about this time of year 3 years ago when we found out my daughter was dying.
My daughter and I had a rift between us that had seperated us for many years, and hadn't spoken to each other in all that time.
She passed away in January.

We had some time we spent together in her last months.
I'm glad we had that time together.
We both just followed our hearts as to how to treat the past and what had seperated us & it was never spoken of by either of us.

I wish I could offfer you some profound advice, other than to wish you peace in what is one of the most painful things a parent can face.
All involved are in my prayers.

Rob Cunningham
12-09-2011, 8:30 AM
Tom,
I'm sorry to hear of your son's illness. Your family is in my prayers.

Phil Thien
12-09-2011, 8:47 AM
My sincerest sympathy, and prayers.

Augusto Orosco
12-09-2011, 8:50 AM
I can't even grasp how difficult this must be for you and your family. All of you will be in my prayers.

Ben Hatcher
12-09-2011, 11:06 AM
My sympathies go out to your son, his partner, you and your family.

Jim Burr
12-09-2011, 11:11 AM
As this is the time of year for peace, I pray that you and your family are able to find it. Our prayers are with you Tom.

Bonnie Campbell
12-09-2011, 11:16 AM
My prayers go out to your son, partner, family and friends....

Belinda Barfield
12-09-2011, 11:24 AM
Prayers for all Tom.

Gary Hodgin
12-09-2011, 11:59 AM
Sorry to hear about your son. He and the rest of your family will be in my prayers.

Jackie Outten
12-09-2011, 12:27 PM
Tom

Keith and I will keep you and your family in our prayers.

Jackie Outten

Paul McGaha
12-09-2011, 12:51 PM
Tom,

I'm really very sorry. A prayer has been said.

PHM

Charlie Jones
12-09-2011, 1:28 PM
Our sincerest sympathies and we will pray for Gods help. Jesus wept John 11:35

Jim Koepke
12-09-2011, 1:39 PM
You are in my prayers.

Spend as much time as you can with your son.

He may not be able to respond, but hold his hand while you pray.

jtk

Bob Rossi
12-09-2011, 3:13 PM
I pray that you, your son, and his partner find love and peace.

jeth chiapas
12-09-2011, 3:19 PM
My thoughts for you and your family at this time.

Rick Prosser
12-09-2011, 3:37 PM
I have no words that will help, but I feel for you and your family.

Jim O'Dell
12-09-2011, 4:17 PM
I'm like Rick, just speechless. We pray for strength for you and your family through this tough time. May the Shamrocks fall softly.... Jim.

Jon Grider
12-09-2011, 7:28 PM
So sorry to hear of your sons illness Tom. May God give you and your family the strength to endure such a difficult time. You're in my prayers.

Rod Sheridan
12-09-2011, 7:50 PM
Tom, I'm very sorry to hear about your son.

Your son, his partner and you and your family are in my thoughts...............Regards, Rod.

Dave Ray
12-09-2011, 7:59 PM
Prayers are being said for you and your family

ray hampton
12-09-2011, 9:08 PM
I want to echo the thoughts of others that ask you to spent as much time with your son as you can, tell him that you love him

Steve Schlumpf
12-09-2011, 11:27 PM
Tom... I have a hard time even comprehending the amount of pain you must be in. I am so sorry to hear of this. Prayers sent.

Jim Tobias
12-10-2011, 12:59 AM
Tom,
Sympathies and prayers to you and your family. I can't imagine what you all are going through.

Tom Leftley
12-10-2011, 7:15 AM
Tim passed away early last evening. I thank all of you for your kind thoughts.

Rod Sheridan
12-10-2011, 6:07 PM
Tom, my sincere condolences on the loss of your son.............Regards, Rod.

Ken Fitzgerald
12-10-2011, 6:46 PM
Tom,

My sincere sympathy for the death of your son.

BOB OLINGER
12-10-2011, 7:01 PM
Dear Tom,

Our deepest sympathy; we will uphold you in our prayers!

bob

Doug Morgan
12-11-2011, 6:08 PM
Several years ago I requested prayer for a loved one. What my pastor told me has stuck with me.
He told me "you need the prayers and I need the practice". Well its time to practice...
God Bless you and your family, you're in my prayers...

Ted Calver
12-11-2011, 8:46 PM
Tim,
I hope he passed peacefully and without pain. My condolences to you and your family for the loss of a loved one.

Van Huskey
12-12-2011, 10:56 AM
My thoughts are with you, your son, your family and his partner.

alex grams
12-12-2011, 12:01 PM
... he is still my son and I still love him

Tell him this every remaining chance you can so he will know.

My grandparents are strict catholic, and they have a son (my uncle) who is gay, and has had HIV for 20+ years. I am sure they feel as you do, and even though it took a long time for them to learn to deal with his life choices, in the end they never let him doubt that they loved him only as parents can love their kids.

T&P.

Brian Deakin
12-16-2011, 11:38 AM
Tom
I am very sorry to hear of you loss my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family .I lost my father 12 years ago and I found the following passage which was read at his funeral helpful



All Is Well

All Is Well - Henry Scott Holland - A Popular Funeral Reading

Death Is Nothing At All

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped away into the next room,
I am I, and you are you,
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still,
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the same easy way which you always did,
Put no difference into your tone;
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect, without the shadow of a ghost on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity,
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am just waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.

Henry Scott Holland
Death Is Nothing At All

All is well

regards Brian

Jim O'Dell
12-16-2011, 6:37 PM
Tom, I'm so sorry. May the Shamrocks fall softly.......Jim.

John McHargue
01-20-2012, 6:19 PM
Tom,
I have you in my prayers. May the Angels of Peace find and Bless you! God Bless.
John

Dave Ray
01-20-2012, 8:03 PM
Tom, my prayers are with and for you and your family. Now is the time to hold close all your sons and daughters and especially your wife, they are suffering tremendously also. May God give you strength.